It’s 10:09pm and I am tired. I just feel like going to bed, but feel that I’m wasting precious time if I go to bed just right now. There is a reason for me to be so tired. Well, more than one reason I would say. I’ve have no chance to sleep in this semester at all or just have a week off. Only four weeks and I’ll be done my first year at university, so there’s lot to do. Oh and the other reason is that today was my sister’s wedding. I don’t think I realize that she is married. I would obviously post a picture here, but I didn’t take any pictures, feeling that I would get some from other people, I didn’t want to be bothered by a camera.
I enjoyed seeing old friends and good people around. But I didn’t get to really talk with people simply because I was busy, they were busy or we didn’t get to sit together. I wish it’d have been different. It is frustrating when you get to see an old friend, but you can’t just sit with the person and have a good little talk. I guess, weddings are not a good place to have one-on-one conversations anyways, there’s too many people who want to see and talk to too many people in such a little amount of time.
Do you know what I did right after the bride and the groom left? I literaly RAN to our room and put on my jeans. I know, this does not surprise you. I know that comments are rare here, but I have a question. When people ask “So, when are YOU getting married” knowing very well you don’t even like a guy, why do they ask? What is their intent? I’mve got my own little idea, but I’d be curious to know what people think or how they feel about it.
If you want my opinion, just ask.
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im curious to have your opinion gabe…
here’s mine..i think that in some cases..people haven’t heard form you in a while..therefore they don’t know if you do like a guy or whatnot..in other cases..i believe it’s just to remind you of your état de célibat…c’est drole..j’ai eu ce genre de conversation v’la pas trop longtemps..je parlais avec natou et karine je pense…anyways..on fesait juste dire comment quon trouvais ca poche de voir que les gens qui pense qu’on est triste et poche dans notre état de célibataire..how its like if we have a sickness or whatever..anyways..
im having difficulty expressing myself again..im sending you pics btw..its loading slowly..i think.
My opinion?
It makes me sort of sad to realize that a lot of people think that I should prusue mariage for reasons that are unknown to me. That’s what most people do anyways eh? You’re 22, your two sisters are married, so what about you? The pattern of “sameness”. It’s not that it hurts me or pressure me to find a guy and get married, it’s just sad that people, simply put everybody in the same basket and think that marriage should be the next step in your life. I know that some people are really hurt when they get comments like that. There is nothing wrong in being single or in dating someone. People should be more careful about that. God has His own timing and making people feel like they should hurry up does not go with what God wants. I know that most people make comments just for fun, because they don’t have anything else to say, they don’t mean to actually say “Hurry up girl!” but those comments, no matter how it is said, affect the person to a certain point and make her feel as if there’s something wrong with her. For me, that’s the way it makes me feel, but I know there’s nothing wrong with me.
nope..nothing is wrong with you….even your height is perfect
Ha ha ha. YOU said it YOURSELF girl! My height is perfect!
yes i did indeed…i love your small height..your the funnest to hug..doesnt change the fact that i can bug you about your smallness though..even if it’s perfect, you are still small..but thats perfect..the perfectess perfect in this non-perfect world.
ok i am now confusing myself..ouch.
Hi Gabrielle,
When people simply ask ‘When are you getting married’ they just want to make ’small talk’. 99% of the time there is no other thought than just using this as an ice breaker to open up a conversation…
You are right indeed. But it does not change the fact that it hurts little girls. As I wrote somewhere in this conversation, people don’t mean to hurt you, they just want to have a little chit chat. But it doesn’t mean that words said in an immocent manner don’t have any impact or don’t hurt. I guess guys don’t get that sort of comments so much as girls because it’s more of a girl thing to ask such questions, so girls, be nice and find other things to say like… “I like your dress” or “How are you” or “You’re wearing flips flops!” you don’t need so much imagination.
I beg your forgiveness, I didn’t want you to be bored on our wedding day.
No seriousely, when I’ll die, the same people will come, and you won’t have to sit at MY table, alright!
Love, plein de love
Oh, I’m older than you Bride, so I might as well die before you and then you’ll cry in payment for putting me through this whole thing. Hum, by the way, no matter if I was your birdesmaid or not, people would have commented the same way! And I’m SO fine with it anyways, it was just that talking about that with other people that I realized that it does hurt people no matter the intent of the “commentor”. Love love love!!!!
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